SUMMARY: Every relationship has natural polarities which will attract you to or repel you from your partner. How you handle this electricity-like tension either makes for an invigorating connection or a painful zap! Learn to keep your relationship safely plugged in and grounded. Plus basic first-aid for disconnections and must-have communication practices. Attend solo or with a partner.
In this Seminar, YOU WILL LEARN:
- How to recognize destructive patterns and keep them from ruining your relationship
- Why you might be getting in the way of your partner giving you what you want the most
- How to put an end to arguments that seem to be about “nothing”
- About the way your self-protective strategies can create an “arms race” of defensive behaviors that make the relationship hard to enjoy for both of you
- How you can have the courage to make changes even if your partner seems to be uninterested in change (and how to make sure you both work equally at change)
- Alternatives to criticism as a form of asking for what you need
- Differences (polarities) do not need to be removed from a relationship for it to be healthy
Do you have what it takes to keep your relationship thriving? TAKE THIS QUIZ.
More about the basic principles introduced in this seminar:
Finding Love…and Keeping It
Falling in love gives us the intoxicating feeling of being alive, whole, and happy. It makes us act in ways we don’t normally, but this magical feeling is not supposed to last. Romance fades and the “hidden agenda” in our relationship emerges from our differences. Keeping love depends not on finding the right partner, but on becoming the right partner. If we are willing to grow and change, we can learn the skills needed to have a successful relationship.
The Way to the Heart is Through the Brain
Our brains are highly adapted to protect us from anything that might be perceived as a threat to our survival. At certain points in every relationship, we hurt our partners when we are just trying to protect ourselves. Our instinctive protective responses show up, usually without our awareness, in how we talk and act. It takes courage and the practice of emotional and relational intelligence to safely disarm yourself in your intimate relationship.
Conflict is Not the Enemy
One principle of relational intelligence is that conflict in relationships is actually a signal to pay special attention to something. It is telling us that something needs to shift. When we know how to listen to the messages embedded within our conflicts, instead of fighting it, we can start to pay better attention to what we most value.
A New Way of Talking
It is possible to express differences and frustrations with your partner while remaining connected in a way that actually enhances your appreciation and love for each other. You can speak for emotions without speaking from them, and use just the right amount of energy to connect your partner to your message.
Need help before the seminar starts? Read my article: Ten Things You Can Do Now to Improve Your Relationship
