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Admitting what thoughts we have about something can free us up to be in more control of our decisions and put us in a better place to act effectively. It also allows us to examine if all -- or just part -- of a particular thought is true.
Below are some responses to some common thoughts or beliefs people have about starting counseling, which will hopefully illuminate your own thinking:
"My problem will eventually pass and I'll be just fine."
Dealing with the roots of a problem always takes more time and involves some skill, but consider that making an extra effort now may prevent a multiplicity of problems later, and doing so will make you stronger in the process.
"I don't want other people to find out that I'm seeing a counselor."
People visit the churches where my offices are located for a variety of different purposes besides counseling, and only people you choose to tell about your appointments with me will know; see confidentiality statement.
"Talking about the problem will make me feel worse."
People often report that counseling is more than just talking, since it provides a connection to someone that cares about what is happening to you-something we all need.
"No one is going to be able to understand what's really going on with me; no one can help."
If we believe that no one can understand or help us, we may begin to act in ways that eventually fulfill our negative expectation. A certain amount of courage and faith are required to break this pattern and learn what changes are needed to create different results.
"I'll just talk to my friends and family instead."
Talking to a trained professional counselor is similar in many ways to ordinary conversations you might have with friends or family, but there are key differences. I pay close attention to how I'm listening to you, something that is hard to maintain even between closest of friends. I will also treat you with unconditional respect, and provide neutrality that can be a shelter for you to safely explore important or vulnerable feelings and ideas.
If you do choose to call, remember that you get to decide if we meet again, and for how long. Either way, I'll be glad to listen to your concerns and help you decide on what's best for you.
Call or email to schedule an appointment with Keith Miller 202-449-3789 ext. 712
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